Message Notes
Key Ingredients To A Strong Marriage That Last
1. A High Commitment To Make It Work
Jim Conway a marriage counselor and author states that marriages must have this mentality to go the distance.
“We don’t care what the divorce rates are we are going to make it last.”
Dr. Kinsley author and marriage counselor with studying over 6000 marriages, 3000 divorces and forty years of experience he found….
“There may be nothing more important in a marriage than a determination that it shall persist. With such determination individuals force themselves to adjust and accept situations which would seem to be sufficient grounds for a break up if continuation of the marriage was not the primary objective.”
2. They Have Mutually And Satisfying Communication
Trust: Is the Foundation
Communication: Is The Life Blood of Every Marriage
What About Love
Love” Is Communicated
Love Is A “Verb”
Every Person Must Know How To Love Their Spouse
What Love Language Do They Speak?
Words of Affirmation
The People Use Words To Affirm People
Acts of Service
For These People Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Receiving Gifts
For Some People, What Makes Them Feel Most Loved Is To Receive A Gift.
Quality Time
This Language Is All About Giving The Other Person Your Undivided Attention.
Physical Touch
To This Person, Nothing Speaks More Deeply Than Appropriate Touch.
3. They Are Spiritually Unified
For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.”
Matthew 18:20
Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?
Amos 3:3
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14
Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchmen stand in guard in vain.
Psalms 127:1
4. They Learn How To Effectively Resolve Conflict, Conflict Is Inevitable!
“My wife and I have an agreement, I won’t try and run her life and I won’t
try and run my life.”
Conflict Resolution Strategies
Don’t Underestimate A Problem – Head In The Sand
Don’t Underestimate Your Potential To Fix It
Don’t Exaggerate The Problem
Find Real Solutions
It’s Ok To Seek Help
5. They Have Sexual Intimacy
God Designed Sex To Be Enjoyed And Experienced
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4
Worldly Ideas Of Sex
1. Sex Is Dirty And Evil.
2. Sex Is Shameful
3. Sex Is Carnal
4. Sex Is For Reproduction Only
5. Sex Is Self-Serving
Sex In Marriage Is Meant To Be An Ongoing Celebration
6. Display A Servants Heart For Each Other
( Servant Lovers)
But he who is greatest among you shall be your servant.
Matthew 23:11
Dating Mentality – What Can I Get
Marriage Mentality – How Can I Bless And Serve You?
7. Husband And Wife Continue To Grow And Develop Together
People Grow, Just Grow Closer!!!
Great Resources
General
Good Boundaries And Goodbyes – Lysa TerKeurst
Boundaries – Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Marriage
Real Relationships Les and Leslie Parrot
Love And Respect – Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Boundaries In Marriage – Henry Cloud
Men And Women Enjoying The Difference – Dr. Larry Crabb
Dating
Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts – Les and Leslie Parrot
Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts – Les and Leslie Parrot
Boundaries In Dating – Henry Cloud
Raising Kids
Bringing Up Boys – Dr. Dobson
Bringing Up Girls – Dr. Dobson
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys – David Thomas
Dare To Discipline – Dr. Dobson
The New Strong Willed Child – Dr. Dobson
Wild At Heart – John Eldridge
Captivating – John and Stasi Eldridge
Be Committed
Always Communicate
Stay Unified
Handle Conflict
Practice Sexual Intimacy
Be Servant Lovers
Grow Together
