4 Seasons Of Marriage
Secrets To A Lasting Marriage – Dr. Gary Chapman
Winter
Emotions: Hurt, Anger, Disappointment, Loneliness, Feeling Rejected
Attitudes: Negativity, Discouragement, Frustration, Hopelessness
Actions:
There Is No Sense Of Togetherness
Conversations Turn To Arguments, Or Spouses Withdraw In Silence
Two People Living In Two Separate Igloos
Spring
Emotions: Excitement, Joy, Hope
Attitudes: Anticipation, Optimism, Gratitude, Love, Trust
Actions: Nurturing, Planning, Communicating, Seeking Help When Needed
Summer
Emotions: Happiness, Satisfaction, Accomplishment, Connection
Attitudes: Trust, Commitment To Growth, Relaxed
Action:
Communicating Constructively, Accepting Differences, Attending Conferences, Reading Books, Growth
Fall
Emotions: Fear, Sadness, Apprehension, Discouragement, Resentment, Feelings Of Being Unappreciated
Attitudes: Concern, Uncertainty, Blaming
Actions: Neglect, Failure To Face Issues
Seasonal Strategies
1. Deal With Your Failures
Identify The Failure
Confession And Repentance
Give And Receive Forgiveness
C.R.A.B Version
What You Conceal, God Cannot Heal!
What You Reveal, God Will Heal!
2. Choose The Right Attitude
Attitude Determines Altitude
Athletes Understand
Winning Is
90% Attitude
10% Hard Work
Practical Steps
Identify Your Negative Attitude
Find And See Your Spouse’s Positive Characteristics
Focus On The Positive Traits
Ask God To Show You How He Sees Your Spouse
Express It To Them!
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.
Proverbs 18:21
3. Learn To Speak Their Love Language
4. Discover The Joy of Helping Your Spouse Succeed
What Can I Do To Help?
How Can I Make Life Easier For You?
How Can I Be A Better “Servant Lover” For You?
Four Easy Ways To Do This
Encouraging Words
Supportive Actions
Emotional Support
Express Respect For Your Spouse
5. Be The Positive Influencer
Find The Positive In All Things!!!
In everything you do, stay away from complaining and arguing so that no one can speak a word of blame against you. You are to live clean, innocent lives as children of God in a dark world full of people who are crooked and stubborn. Shine out among them like beacon lights, holding out to them the Word of Life. Then when Christ returns, how glad I will be that my work among you was so worthwhile.
Philippians 2:14-16
You Cannot Control Or Change Your Spouse
But You Can Influence Them Everyday For Christ
- Own Your Failures
- Keep The Right Attitude
- Know Your Love Languages
- Root For Each Other’s Success
- Be A Positive Influence
