Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:1-3
The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:4-5
But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.
1 Corinthians 7:6-7
But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
The World’s Way In 4 Steps
Find The Right Person
Fall In Love
Fix Your Hopes And Dreams On This Person For Your Future Fulfillment
If Failure Occurs Repeat Steps 1, 2, And 3
God’s Way In 4 Steps
Become The Right Person
Walk In Love
Fix Your Hopes On God And Seek To Please Him Through This Relationship
If Failure Occurs, Repeat Steps 1, 2, And 3
Marriage Expectations
Everyone’s Expectation Is The Same In Marriage
Everything Good In Our Relationship Will Get Better
Everything Bad In My Life Will Disappear
My Spouse Will Make Me Whole
We Love Each Other, So We Will Work It All Out
Three Common Words For Love In The Bible
Eros – Phileo – Agape
“Eros” Love
This Is “Need” Love
It Is The Physical Attraction, Love And Fulfillment.
This Love Is Necessary For Marriage And Relationships To Succeed
Marriage Cannot Not Be Sustained By This Love Alone
Song Of Solomon 7
Phileo Love
This Is Friendship Love
Phileo Love Is Reciprocal Sharing Of Time, Activities, Hobbies And Basic Fellowship
But concerning brotherly love you have no need that I should write to you, for you yourselves are taught by God to love one another;
1 Thessalonians 4:9
Agape Love
This Is Giving Love
This Is Unilateral Love
Love That Gives Even When Others Don’t Respond As Expected.
This Is Self-Giving Love
Agape Is Love With Initiative And Energizes The Other Two Kinds Of Love
Passion (Eros Love)
The Biological Side Of The Relationship Triangle Is Passion
Pure Passion Is Self-Seeking Until It Is Combined With The Other Two Types Of Love
Passion Can Also Be Possessive, Fostering A Fascination That Borders Obsession
Intimacy (Phileo Love)
The Emotional Side Of The Love Triangle
The Idea Of “Best Friend” Or “Soul Mate” Quality
You Cannot Love Someone Long Term Without Knowing Who They Really Are.
Commitment (Agape)
The Cognitive And Willful Side Of The Love Triangle Is Commitment
“Commitment” Creates A Small Island Of Certainty In The Swirling Waters of Uncertainty.
Commitment Looks Toward A Future That Cannot Be Seen And Promises To Be There Until Death
Romantic Love
Combination Of Passion And Intimacy
Lacking Commitment
*Physical Attraction With A Deep Since Of Caring But Lacking Commitment *
Foolish Love
Combination Of Passion And Commitment
Lacking In Intimacy
*Love Without True Knowledge Of Someone
No “Best Friend” Feel To The Marriage *
Companion Love
Combination Of Intimacy And Commitment
Lacking Passion
Love But A Feeling Of Roommates Or Coworkers
The Real Target
Consummate Love Balanced
Passion In Balance With Commitment In Balance With Intimacy
Love Stages
Level One: Romance
Level Two: Power Struggle
Level Three: Cooperation
Level Four: Mutuality
Level Five: Co-creativity
Singles
Keep Your Emotional And Physical Involvement Behind Your Leading From God And Commitment To The Other Person
Married
Love Requires The Nourishment of All Three Kinds Of Love
Examine Which One Your Spouse Needs Most And Choose To Give It As An Act Of Worship To God
Three Great Questions You Can Ask
Do I Feel That (Intimacy – Passion – Commitment) Is Missing In My Relationship?
What Do You Feel Is Lacking In Our Relationship? Intimacy – Passion – Commitment
What Can We Do To Help With Intimacy, Passion Or Commitment?
Four Keys To Intimacy
Commitment
A Lifelong Choice Of Unconditional Love
Communication
A Lifelong Skill Of Learning To Understand Each Other.
Caring
“An Adventure Of Lifelong Friendship, Fun, And Mutual Fulfillment”
Commission
A Shared Lifelong Vision To Impact The Lives Of Others For Christ
